One day it will all be over…

One day, and hopefully soon.  Now don’t get scared, I’m not talking about things ending in THAT way 😉
I am simply talking about all these bad things that keep happening.  I know that you have noticed my blogging has seriously dwindled, I pop up once in a while and let you know new reasons why I am away.  It has just been so much to deal with.  I have been told by many friends to quit with the excuses and post about what’s going on.  They have shown me other posts, earlier posts, where I would “blog” and nothing else.  I loved that part about me, I miss it.  At the same time I have refrained from giving details of the things we are going through because in my opinion “why would anyone want to read about someone else’s troubles right?”  At that moment I realized that
that’s what I was missing from “MY blogging”  I was missing the real reason of why I started this blog, of why I decided to go public with my blog; so I could share our adventures and troubles and how we overcame them.  So here I am, on my couch, in a dark living room, blogging from my phone.  It has come to this for me to realize my real reason for blogging 😉

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE what I do, I LOVE doing reviews, contests, BUT I believe that what I love more is being me.  Sharing with the world what I love, what I do, and how I get through things.  So I have decided that despite my feelings  about certain things being read by those who shouldn’t; I am going to speak up. spill it, and embrace it!!

Thank you to those of you who have stuck by me through so many things, who have supported me and encouraged me with love and a push.  Every single one of you who I have met online has influenced, helped, and supported me and that’s so much more than what I was getting from the biological family.  You all mean the world to me.

Now, where do I start?

Remember the posts about my grampa’s accident and living in the hospital with him?

(since I am on a BB I can’t add links, but they are under the May 2010 index)
I learned this week that he fell again and re-broke the same bones.

Remember my issue with the landlord about taking our pool?

he was upset because I asked him to take 30 dollars off of the rent since he fired the poolman and I was doing the pool upkeeping; he gave us a notice to move out.  Since our lease was up we had no grounds in our defense.  I begged for him to extend our stay here since the Holidays were here, so he extended them until Jan. 15th. 
Now it’s Dec. 27th and we have still not been able to find a new place to move into.  Today the owner came by and re-affirmed his decision to have us moved out no later than the 15th of Jan.  So he was very nice in handing me a n move out notice for the 15th or I surrendeer our property.

Had enough yet?  Apparently I haven’t lol, so here’s more…
Our mini van (our only vehicle) failed the smog check a couple of months ago, I forgot I had a permit and to my luck it expired a day before I went to the mall.  I got a ticket for expired registration.  That was in nov.  I put it in my purse and forgot about it, 2 weeks ago I received a notice in the mail, my ticket was now $180. 

Nope, not done yet!!!

We went to take it to another place for the smog check, hoping it was a mistake.  It failed again, and as we read the report, it says we need to fix the catalyst converter; no problem right? Only that it’s $1,200!!!  So the mechanic suggests that we do “other” things to try and get it to pass, as in:  1. do an engine flush= failed  2. do oil change=fail!  3. something else, and something else, and something else’s else!!!  7 days later without a car, during the chidren’s last week of School; which also happened to be the week my in-laws were visiting.  Our vacation together ended up being no fun at all because we were all car-less, and super stressed about the car bill.  At the end of the week the mechanic calls and says after all he has done, there is still going to be no choice but to change the catalyst converter.  WHAT?!?!? No way!!  So after a lot of reasonable talks with my Father in law, the mechanic re-tested the car and it passed.  Only $700 later!!!  There goes Christmas right?

That same week we had so many events to attend with the kids, on Monday we attended the School’s Christmas performance for the 3rd and 2nd graders.  Tuesday was the School Christmas performance for the kindergartner, and on Wednesday was the much anticipated School Christmas performance for the 5th grader.  We were excited for it because she had waited the previous 3 days for her turn in the spotlight.    Now, here’s the part where we split this story in 2. 

Do you remember the troubles I had with my Daughter’s abusive teacher?  If you don’t; my Daughter’s teacher was calling the kids names such as “animals”‘ and “stupid” amongst so many other things.  After a 2 month leave of absence, she’s back.  against my wishes my daughter was left in her class because there were no other classes available.     My daughter has continued to tell me the wrong things she does to the class, but the principal would continue to tell me that things were okay; that the teacher was being monitored. 

Back to the Wednesday of the performance:  We are sitting in the front row, right in front of the stage, all 10 of us taking up the entire row, and since my daughter’s  class was the last class of the evening, we were enjoying the rest of the classes.  Then comes my daughter and walks towards me, she tells me that she wants to go home.  When I asked her why, she said the teacher told the kids that instead of reading the entire “night before Christmas” performance, they were only going to read the first paragraph because they embarrassed her earlier in the week when they performed for the school.  I was furious.  how is she going to tell the kids they embarrassed her!?!?!  I was too upset to speak with her, so I told my husband and my Father in law (who is a Pastor) to go speak with the teacher, I needed someone reasonable, for my daughter’s sake.  They came back after a few minutes, they said they calmly spoke to the teacher and she told them that the kids didn’t know the whole thing and that she wanted to shorter version.  So my husband and FIL came back to their seats, as the principal was announcing the 2nd to the last class, my daughter runs inside the auditorium in such a hysterical cry that I was afraid she had gotten hurt.  I asked her what happened and she said the teacher was so upset that she told her “get out of my class, you’re not in the performance, get out”  I asked my daughter a few times to tell me again what the teacher said, because I was still foolishly giving her the benefit of the doubt.  I looked in my daughter’s eyes and saw the enourmous amount of hurt, so I went into “mean mom” mode.  I grabbed my daughter’s hand and walked out, as I was walking out I looked back and told my husband and my FIL what my daughter said.  I stormed out of the auditorium,  As I approach my daugher’s class, I see the teacher screaming at the entire class to make sure they stay in line and read every single line on their papers.  Witnessing the way she was screaming at the kids upset me even more, I walked up to her and in a moment of complete calmness I asked her why she had told my daughter to get out.  she immediately started screaming at me so loud, telling me that my daughter was so bad, that she wasn’t listening, and was walking around, that she hadn’t didn’t even want her performing because my daughter didn’t know any of the words to the poem.  I asked her 3 times to please not scream at me, and she continued to raise her voice.  At this point my daughter was still hysterical and screaming back that it wasn’t true.  Out of the corner of my eye, I see one of the students shaking his head in the “no” position.  I asked him “no what?”  he said that it wasn’t true, that my daughter wasn’t doing what the teacher said.  The teacher screamed at the student to “shut up!”  and i looked at her and told her to be quiet!”  Suddenly all of the class, I mean the entire class started speaking at the same time; ALL IN DEFENSE OF MY DAUGHTER!!!  they were saying that my daughter never speaks up, and that the teacher always lies.  The teacher was still screaming at the kids to shut up, at that point I couldn’t take it anymore, i grabbed my daughter’s hand and walked around 2 buildings to the auditorium.  My MIL walked out of the auditorium and asked what was going on, she said everyone could hear a woman screaming outside.  I told her it was the teacher and as I am trying to calm my daughter down the teacher walks up to us and screams at my daughter as she pushes papers onto her hand “here! you want to perform?1 then here! here are the papers! no go and get on stage!!”  I was livid!!! I looked at her and told her to get away from my daughter, she looked at me and told me “fine, I tried!”  As she leads the kids into the stage all the kids walk by and hug my daughter.  I didn’t know but my FIL had gone inside and told the principal what had happened, she walked outside as I was consoling my daughter, she told her to go perform.  my daughter said she didn’t want too, and I told the principal to please leave her alone.  I am so thankful that she didn’t listen to me, she pushed and pushed for my daughter to go and told her that she needed to prove that she could do the performance.  So my daughter agreed.  As my daughter walked on stage, you can hear a student say (loudly) “don’t worry “her name” we got our back!!”  then you hear everyone clap.    I was so emotional and full of rage that I couldn’t even go inside and see her perform.  At the end, the principal told me my daughter was in fact the only student up there who knew the entire poem without having to read the paper.  I was even more furious seeing that that was supposedly the excuse the teacher used to scream at her the first time.  That night we decided that the next day we were going to the district, my in-laws, myself and another mother who has also been fighting for the teacher to be removed from the class.  We met with the superintendent and assured that she can not be fired (union rules are apparently more important than children’s rights)  but as of the first day back from winter break my daughter will not be attending that class.

Had enough?  I have more, LOl.

Next month, as all things that happen to me, happen in bunches, at the same time that we are supposed to move out of here, my husband has to fly to Washington DC.  We will find out once and for all when he gets out of the military.  Yep, we are going to be civilians and it’s all happening at the same time. 

Ahh, you thought I was done?! NOT!! 
The day he flies out is on our daughter’s 11th birthday, the same daughter that is going through all of this mess with her teacher.  It wouldn’t be so bad if this wasn’t a routine.  for her almost 11 years of life, he has missed her birth and 8 of her birthdays, always leaving the day before her birthday.  Poor baby!

I had one piece of good news, I enrolled myself in college, I was finally going to go back!  i got approved for financial aid, and had my classes picked out.  My appointment was actually today for enrollment. 
Guess what?!

On Christmas day, we hosted Dinner at our house, as we always do for Military Families.  Towards the end of the night, someone broke my laptop, our only computer we owned, the computer with which I was supposed to use for college online!!!  As I tried to keep calm as to not ruin christmas dinner for everyone I blocked my feelings out.  My kids were playing with their new “”Band Hero” they got for Christmas.  At the end of the night, after everyone left, we see that someone ripped out those wires as well and broke our new band hero!
added notes: I also fell on Dec. 10th and hurt my back, I have been to the hospital a few times for the pain, but with all that was going on, I never had the time to stay and have whatever it is fixed.  Almost a month later it’s still hard for me to stand or walk.  Hopefully after all this settles, I will finally have time to take care of myself 😉  For now, i just have to keep on truckin’ 😉

So yes, here I am, on my couch, bogging from my blackberry, with a migraine from straining my eyes and carpel tunnel LOL.  Will I regret putting all of this out there? I hope not,  Do I feel better spilling it out?  not sure yet, maybe it’s because i am just so used to hiding my emotions that I forget I’m doing it. 
So as you can see, there it is, there’s all of it.  Every single thing I am dealing with at this moment, the reasons why i have not been blogging, the things I have been trying to keep you from; all here.
Now you can go, lol.  I just couldn’t post this in episodes or I might have never finished.

note from Jan.3, 2011: My resolution for the New Year? I hope to leave ALL of this behind me, start fresh, new home, new goals, new guests during the Holidays lol, new positive attitude,  not let life knock me down, after all, I’m alive right? 😉 Happy New Year!!!!!

13 thoughts on “One day it will all be over…”

  1. ((((HUGS))) I went through the mean teacher issue for an entire year, because of that my son was bullied for the next two years until we moved/got out of the military. I’ve had some difficulty adjusting to civilian life, two additional years of…well not so nice life. Finally this past summer we moved again and luck is finally on my side. Hopefully your luck doesn’t take that long.

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  3. So sorry Lily. When you guys get through all this all at once you will know that you can get through anything.

    That teacher sounds just awful. Both my parents are teachers so I get the whole teacher union thing but there has to be a limit. Bad teachers need to be fired period! Especially those with severe emotional problems.

    Good luck on finding a new place to live. Kinda ridiculous that the landlord kicked you out just because you asked for a 30 dollar decrease. I really hope that things will get better for you and your family because you are good people.

  4. We all need to vent sometimes, nothing wrong with that. I cannot believe all that has been going on with you guys! That teacher is insane and quite frankly I think you showed great restraint because yelling at me is one thing, but yelling at my kid is another, and I just don’t know that I could have stayed as “calm” as it sounded like you did-I might have wanted to deck the witch which would have only lead to more problems (can you say battery?!?!?). I hope things get better for you guys in 2011. *hugs*

  5. It’s reason’s like this why I blog. You had to get it out. I found you via Stirup Queen. I hope that you work everything out with finding a place to live and that you daughter’s teacher is fired. I don’t know how she can speak to her kids the way she does and not get fired. Most kids have cell phones these days, they should take video footage of her tyrades and show the parents for proof.

  6. Lily, I’m so sorry to hear all you’re going through. It’s a lot to handle all at one time. You can only get stronger as a result. Trust in the Lord to get you through it.

    Do you know about Arnica? It’s a homeopathic remedy, costs about $6. I’ve been using it for 16 yrs. and it’s helped in even the most extremely painful injuries that my family has dealt with. Look for it in your local health food store or online (Arnica montana 30C or 30X, use it a few times until you start to feel better then stop.) There is also a topical gel, but the oral remedy will work to heal from the inside.

    Also, I just started a new blog. I don’t know if you’re up to it or not, but if you’d like to stop by it’s I will have lots of encouragement and inspirational posts on there.

    I hope you find a comfortable place to move to soon. Keeping you in my prayers!

    Lisa xoxo

  7. Wow. I just found your blog today (through Twittermoms…I’m following you on GFC and Networked Blogs, btw). I feel so horrible for you and your daughter.

    I understand that there are union rules, but don’t let that stop you from fighting for your daughter and her rights. She deserves much better than this teacher…plus, by fighting for her, you are probably helping some of the other kids in her class who are too timid to speak up and stand up for themselves. The way that teacher acted just turns my stomach!

    I’ve been in similar housing situations (and car situations), so I can definitely relate. We just moved–and were hit with an expired sticker ticket (along with impound fees). It sure is tough to deal with all of this around the holidays!

    I’m sorry you have been having such a rough time…hopefully 2011 will be much better! {{{HUGS}}}

  8. Wow. Talk about a stressful end of the year!!

    I can’t BELIEVE that a teacher was acting in that manner. You did pretty good considering the circumstances. Stay on top of that though. Those children need someone to fight for them. Teachers shouldn’t be bullies.

    I pray that you all find a wonderful place to live and that your computer gets fixed. I’ve been there where we’ve had a short period of time to find somewhere to live, but God always provided. Look on the bright side…it has to get better from here! 🙂

    By the way…I’m impressed that you typed all of that from your blackberry. Your fingers have to be doing some serious cramping! LOL

    Happy New Year!

  9. So sad that these teachers have so much protection against such bad behavior, great to hear your little girl was so strong!

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